Remember, the realms are:    
   1. Spiritual
   2. Mental
   3. Emotional
   4. Physical
   5. Sexual
   6. Financial 
   

Welcome live ..... a man hit by this financial crash and hit hard! John called in to say, “Mona, can you help me understand what just happened and help me get my head out of my ass?"

So……… John is coming on “Live” to discover where he missed truths and boundaries as did the rest of us! You do know, we all miss boundaries… all the time. And through talking about “it” with the goal to understand and change, not judge “it”, a Miracle can happen. Once wisdom hits mistakes and pain we get instant worth, and with clarity and change re-enters peace. And the rebuilding of our new thoughts, feelings, beliefs and behaviors comes an even better foundation. Walt Disney went bankrupt somewhere around 11 times. Ford had its moments and went broke 5 times. I think he got it. I think they got it.

Donald Trump, financier
Michael Jackson, singer
Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart, composer
Elton John, singer/composer
Mike Tyson, boxer
Mark Twain, humorist
Thomas Jefferson, patriot and president
MC Hammer, rap singer
Willie Nelson, country singer
Charles Goodyear, inventor of vulcanized rubber
PT Barnum, circus promoter
L. Frank Baum, author of “The Wonderful Wizard of Oz”
Oscar Wilde, playwright
Jerry Lee Lewis, rock singer
Rembrandt, painter
Henry Heinz, ketchup magnate
Milton Hershey, chocolate magnate
Henry Ford, auto magnate
John Connally, former Texas governor
Mick Fleetwood, rock singer
Ulysses S. Grant, president and Civil War general
Larry King, talk show host

Are these bad people? Losers? Evil? I think not! Yet they all went bankrupt at least once and some multiple times. First step, release shame and start learning.

Let’s start with what happened with Bear Stearns. Bear Stearns was founded in 1923 and in recent years was best known for its aggressive investing in mortgage-backed securities — and what was once a cash guarantee turned into the investment bank's crash. Bets on investments were made from a lack of boundaries such as subprime mortgages — loans given to customers with poor credit history — manipulation of truth crippled Bear Stearns, the nations' fifth-largest investment bank. Manipulation often comes from desires and feelings…. and do not judge or throw the first stone…. because I can find this behavior in anyone, including me. Hard to believe, I know.

So far, global banks have written down some $200 billion worth of securities slammed amid the credit crisis.

JPMorgan's acquisition of Bear Stearns represented roughly 1 percent of what the investment bank was worth March 1, 2008. The deal marked a 93.3 percent discount to Bear Stearns' market capitalization as March 14, and roughly a 98.8 percent discount to its book value as of Feb. 29.

Wall Street analysts say the bid to rescue Bear Stearns was more than just saving one of the world's largest investment banks — it was a prop for the U.S. economy and global financial system. An outright collapse could have caused huge losses for banks, hedge funds and other investors to which Bear Stearns was connected. So now we work together as a community or we all go down. Should we not be working as a whole at all times?

Now, what happened to John and people like John?
John said, "It all started the day I was laying in bed with my wife saying, “Wow!” we are so incredibly blessed. We have a beautiful family, all the money we will ever need, we all like each other... And we are all madly in love with our relationship and the kids!
It seemed that Life was perfect.

Little did I know I was undermining the whole incredible thing.

I was asked to lead a company that was about to go public. They promised me the moon and the first thing I received was an Aston Martin...” This is a very high end car. So was this company smart? Did they go right to John’s ego? Did the thrill of this image take this man out of his comfort zone and move him at a very fast pace? “The car was beautiful. The promise of money and the ability to run a public company, finally the world was about to be blessed by my genius in marketing and advertising.” No ego here.
“I love developing projects and companies so, this job was for me. I was also on my way to selling my video production company to free up time to spend with family and the new job wasn’t going to take much time, as they told me.

My other company was going great too, and it was being run by a very good guy that I trusted. Oh, and along the way, I taught myself to trade in the stock market. My understanding of business and being a visual person helped me fly in this business too... I could chart stocks with the best of them. I, in a very short amount of time, 7 months to be exact; I turned a $30,000 portfolio into roughly 2 million dollars.” Is going too fast an issue? Can that ensure our egos are making our decisions and we may be coming from a manipulative place? Especially, a self manipulative place if the feelings and image are stronger than our insides.

“I was kickin’ life's ass and taking names. All was perfect until it all started to crumble.

The dream job…but, I could never seem to work out a concrete deal with this company, so I stayed away mostly. I would peek in on them almost everyday to see the people, but the deal never came through...” Was John going passive? Did he want this deal and car so badly that he turned a blind eye ignoring truth and boundaries? Uh oh!

“And along the way… I was signing documents as the CEO without proper contracts that protected me and my family. Also, being the creative genius that I was, worked on a proposal for a potential client for a national campaign – and WE GOT IT!” Is John's right brain dominant? Meaning, feeling and creative but missing the left brain’s logic, truth and boundaries? Is it important to develop both sides of the brain like the Senate and House of Representatives? Do not move until both sides are in some type of agreement?

“I stuck around to work on that national campaign with the promise of profit sharing and salary... It never happened.” Oh oh. No truth or boundaries.

"Cut to current day... In October my $2M trading account started to crumble before my eyes. We didn’t know it, but it was the start of a bear market. A Bear market is not a bad thing if you are positioned for it... I was not! My position sizing was the size of most small country’s income. In just 4 days, my account was decimated. But I ended up rebuilding it back, mostly in the next couple months. Stocks were performing as expected, then it all started to happen again. Then I went on a much needed vacation leaving my position for over a week.” Is this a good time to leave? Was John doing the three fear words? Running, freezing or attacking? Fear makes 4 things; more fear, anger, guilt and shame.

“I checked my account from the beach, but you can’t trade from an iPhone...

When I got back, I roughly had what I started with, that I had worked so hard to get. A few days later, it was all gone.

After attending traders anonymous, just kidding... I was attending a trader’s conference and I got a phone call from my wife. She said, you are never gonna guess who just left the house. I said hesitantly... Whooo?
She said - It was law enforcement. And they wanted to know what my involvement was with “that company".

I invited them back and got the story. Because I signed my name on documents without an agreement, and without control of the company – which I asked for numerous times, but never got the reigns.” Is John feeling like a victim? How did John feel about his life as a child? How low was his ego originally, to need this image without protection of contracts and lawyer’s guidance? Remember, high ego is nothing more than a defense for low ego.

“The guys who originally owned the company were up to something fishy... This hasn’t been proven on either side, by the way – but I was in the middle of it because my signature was everywhere. Not to mention that well after I left “the company” defaulted on a very sizable loan and my signature was on that as well.

In any event people called me looking for the money and I wasn’t part of the company any more so I said – what are you talking about?” As John gave away his power he was stuck with responsibility. Being fair or true no longer mattered. He is lost in twists. It’s like having your name on a loan for a house, which makes you responsible, but your name is not on the title, so you have no rights.

“My video production company was failing with the economy too – my biggest clients – all at the same time either went out of business or scaled back and didn’t have meetings scheduled for ‘08.
My business was down well over 60% and I am working round the clock to try to get new work in.

I then put another 30k in a trading account and was trading for 2 other people’s accounts and we managed to get into the Bear Sterns trade... I managed to lose all of our money and then owe the brokerage more on top of that because the CEO lied. I followed and took the trade.

I am now living on savings with no income at the moment and haven't had income for a few months. Savings is running out. I closed the office and fired my awesome staff except for one guy.
It seems that all I touch is going against me and I have never been in this much debt and now I may have to find A LOT of money to defend myself in court.

I can’t get a good trade going to save my life. I actually had a stock go UP 30% in 2 weeks to knock me out of a trade and that just doesn’t happen. Bear Stearns went basically out of business and that never happens to multinational companies with a strong name.

My golden touch is gone and I didn’t protect myself along the way.” This is like a drug high with no truth or boundaries stopping the train with no track.
“I was in fear which drove me into some bad trades that knocked out my accounts and other peoples account as well.

My business is lame and I got law enforcement coming after me.

The video business owes me money and looks like I am going to have to take them to court and I lent “the company” some money which they promised to pay back in 90 days and it’s been over a year and it still isn’t here, no matter how much they promise that it will be here any day now.” So truths above feelings and words and behaviors have to match!

“I feel terrible for all my actions that led to this. ARGH!”

The sad part is John has asthma. And unfortunately we have learned that stress makes the body’s immune system weak and has been getting very ill. He is having terrible asthma attacks, pleurisy on top of pneumonia and lung problems.
He can’t sleep or eat because his head is spinning 1000mph. He is on prednisone, steroid inhalers and many anti-biotics which also break down his immune system.

Don’t worry he is about to contact Dr. Group, last week’s guest, to take care of some of this physical stuff and we are going to learn to live in prevention.

Dis-ease: The Body, Mind, Heart and Soul are not living in Ease!

How important is detoxifying the Heart, Body, Mind and Soul?
How do you do it?
What is the need for oxygen: physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually about?

Over 20 years ago I began deteriorating in every way. In the '80's we didn't understand or have the knowledge we have today. I had many blocked memories full of anger, fear, guilt and shame and didn't know how it affected me inside and out.

I was proud of being called "little toughy" Little toughy came from taking so much pain with no tears. Little toughy was a positive thought that became negative because it blocked the truth that I was hurt and needed help. This masked my mind and body's messages.

Everyone has a story of spiritual, mental, emotional, physical, sexual and/or financial pain. The question is...................................What and how do we deal with it.

Let's find out another piece of understanding and join my kindred spirit, even though we have never met physically, Dr. Edward Group, founder of Global Healing Center, Inc. (www.ghchealth.com) and author, his newest book being "Health Begins In the Colon".

For 21/2 years I lived in colonic treatments, 2-3 times a week, green mixtures for oxygen and many other formulas to cleanse and re-build my system. This was the beginning of saving my internal and external life.

So call in 1-800-336-2225 and ask your questions, share your stories or just listen...
Sunday evening, April 20th
7-8 p.m. PT / 10-11 p.m. ET

About Dr. Edward F. Group III, DC, ND, DACBN:
Professional Profile:
Dr. Group founded Global Healing Center in 1998 and is currently the Chief Executive Officer. Heading up the research and development team, Dr. Group assumes a hands-on approach in producing new and advanced degenerative disease products and information.

Dr. Group has studied natural healing methods for over 20 years and now teaches individuals and practitioners all around the world. He no longer sees patients but solely concentrates on spreading the word of health and wellness to the global community. Under his leadership, Global Healing Center, Inc. has earned recognition as one of the largest alternative, natural and organic health resources on the Internet.

Dr. Group's Mission:
My desire is to help as many people as I can by providing them with the most accurate health information in the world. I want to help educate and heal the world, promote a clean environment, and bring back good health, positive thinking, happiness, and love. I also want to expose to you the hidden truths behind the medical industry, such as how modern medicine treats just the symptoms of disease and not the root causes. Let's face it-the current healthcare systems are not working and the incidence of disease is climbing at an alarming rate. I want people to know that the root cause of disease stems from the accumulation of toxins in the body, and daily exposure to a toxic living environment. These toxins come from air, water, genetically modified foods, pesticides, meat, dairy, soy, white flour, table salt, MSG (Monosodium Glutamate), microwaved foods, refined sugar, artificial sweeteners, caffeine, alcohol, electromagnetic radiation, heavy metals, parasites, industrial chemicals, prescription drugs and more.

I feel it's my purpose in life to teach you how critical it is to detoxify your body on the inside as well as the outside. Internal purification is the first, crucial step towards achieving maximum health and vitality. By cleansing your body on a regular basis and eliminating as many toxins as possible from your environment, your body can begin to heal itself, prevent disease, and become stronger and more resilient than you ever dreamed possible! I constantly dream of changing the quality of life for all of us by revealing this valuable information. I firmly believe-the real definition of a doctor should be one who teaches, not one who prescribes. This is my gift to each and every one of you!

Armed Forces Career:
I enlisted in the Army in 1985. I performed my basic and infantry training at Fort Benning, Georgia. I was then assigned to the 4th Infantry Division based out of Fort Carson, Colorado and was then transferred overseas to the 1/506 infantry regimen at Camp Greaves, Korea. While in Korea I was accepted by one of the top Korean Tae Kwon Do masters for training in martial arts. It was considered a great honor in Korea to be a student of this master. Practicing martial arts under this master taught me discipline, focus, meditation and healing techniques, the movement of energies and the connection between all living things. After my term in Korea I was honorably discharged from active duty in 1989. During my military duty I received two Army achievement medals-a good conduct medal and an overseas ribbon.

Memberships and Organizations - Past and Present:
~Society for Scientific Exploration - Chosen as an elite member for independent research, developments and accomplishments in science, natural medicine and quantum physics. Board members include Harvard and Yale professors.
~Occidental Institute Research Foundation: Member and research associate under the statutes of this incorporated international society for practitioners of Biological Medicine.
~Oxford Club Member - An elite group of people internationally who analyze world affairs and business trends.
~American Chiropractic Association
~International Executive Guild and International Who's Who: In the field of medicinal research.

Specialties and Continued Studies:
Advanced Alternative Medicine, Nutritional Biochemistry, Organic Chemistry, Quantum Physics, Inorganic Chemistry, Human Physiology, Human Anatomy, Cellular Biology, Cellular Biomechanics, Human Neuroanatomy, Human Parasitology, Botany, Herbology, Natural Rheumatology, Neutraceutical Formulating, Physics, Internal Diagnosis, Human Neuropsychological Studies, Skeletal Radiology, Spinal Radiology, Appendicular and Axial biomechanics, Nutrition, Water and Air purification, Technical consulting and problem solving, Natural medicine, Sports medicine, Weight Loss and Physical Rehabilitation.

Dr. Group - Master Natural Health Product Formulator: Dr. Group continues to develop exclusively high-end natural supplements to support a wide range of health conditions. He only sells and promotes products which demonstrate the greatest success in personal trials. His philosophy is to develop products made with organically certified or wild crafted herbs whenever possible, and at all costs reduce the risk to the consumer from ingesting toxic herbicides, insecticides, pesticides, heavy metals, fumigants and irradiation (commonly found in over 90% of all health supplements). He utilizes 100% pure vegetable capsules, as opposed to toxic tablets with liver-toxic glues, binders, preservatives, or gelatin capsules with animal-source prion risk.

Dr. Group pioneered the use of natural excipients and flow agents such as organic diatomaceous earth and organic gum acacia instead of the industry standard of using questionable or hard-to-digest non-nutritive substances such as magnesium stearate (a toxic, hydrogenated oil), silicon dioxide (common sand), methylcellulose, carnauba wax, etc. All of the ingredients he uses are as pure as he can obtain with the highest level of active ingredients.

Dr. Group's book, "Health Begins in the Colon": Released in December of 2007. This hard copy book includes everything you need to know about cleansing your intestinal tract, body and living environment. In this book you will read about health in a manner you may have never heard about before. It's a book that you don't want to miss, won't want to put down, and one you'll certainly want to share. Discover a wealth of information that will save you time, money and possibly your life. This book includes everything I have learned over the years. This is the full unabridged version of the "Complete Colon Cleanse" book I wrote. For more information go to www.healthbeginsinthecolon.com

This just in from Tammy, the caller, from Sunday night’s show…….

First off I would like to Congratulate Mona on your success with the new hour. We all could use more of Mona in our life.

Secondly, I would like to thank Mona, as I have been working your rinse papers and learning to go Beyond What I know... in recent months. I thought I knew it all Ms. Mona. I'm starting to realize empowerment of "myself" and discovering my realms more intimately. Not just help empower the people around me. I was the "little toughy" and learning to break through that. I see a bright light ahead for me. I'm a work in progress and will let you know the outcome.

I have also read through your website Dr. Group and really like what I see. This is identical to what Mona does actually. Going "beyond what we know" in this case about organic living and cleansing. I look forward to learning more.

6 Years ago I was diagnosed with Ovarian Cancer. As they Say "The Silent Killer", only because no one, meaning the medical industry, is listening, By The Way. I learned I had ovarian cancer through a suspicion of having Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (multiplicity of Cysts on your ovaries). Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome blocks your menstrual cycle among many other things. Starting from an early age, I would not have a menstrual cycle for months and even over a year in some cases. I would go for my visits, communicate this to my doctor and on numerous of occasions getting comments such as "you should feel lucky". If your ovaries aren't working, I beg of you to seek information and get them "fixed". If I didn't force the issue, God knows where I would be today. Forcing the doctor to test for POS they found 2 fibroid tumors. I battled Cancer with Chemo and Radiation Treatments. And learning how my body worked with food and most importantly about organic foods and living. What I thought was de-toxifying my body --- as I continued to live my life the organic way. The reason I say "what I thought" is because, most recently, I started to get those same symptoms back for Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. In communicating this to my doctor we did some blood work (Including Markers such at CA-125 etc.) and continuing with a Biopsy. I have been waiting painfully for the results for over a week now.

Please let Dr. Group and I know your results. I know you have been rinsing using the Feeling Rinse Paper at the top of this page. Please add the physical part of the anger work, which is hitting your pillow as you release your feelings and thoughts from the paper.
Add to that ...

Dear Ovaries,
When I look at you I see……I feel… and I remember when…..
Let’s see if there is a message in there or a memory that is stuck. Do the same thing with you feminine energy and see what is blocked inside. Do you operate in a lot of male energy? The balance can easily be off.

Dear Feminine Energy,
When I look at you I see……I feel… and I remember when…..
Are you carrying any hurt or pain from your mom, sister, grandmother or aunt etc…?If so write the story of I remember when………and continue down the Rinse Paper.

As you know from previous shows, the study and understanding of other cultures is imperative for global understanding, love, and the development of true gratefulness for each moment of life as we are experiencing it.

Cambodia is another place that has fallen prey to a genocide in 1975. This is why poverty is so abusive. Poverty leaves you prey to abusers, domination and brain washing. This is why world understanding and balance is a must!

I call America the “Runaway Shelter”. Which means America began with immigrants that were runaways from a bigoted, impoverished or master/slave mentality. So we are still abusers and abusees and developing into a healing, innovative and open minded people.

“Khanteya's family endured impossibilities during the Cambodian Communist take over that began on April 17, 1975. They were forced to leave their home, and in fear for their lives became fugitives in their own land. Disguised as farmers, they existed, only barely, until they were able to flee into Thailand. Along the way, the family was split up, put into concentration camps, forced into slave labor, reunited, and ultimately regrouped in a refugee camp run by the United Nations, Khao-I-Dang. There, Khanteya volunteered in a hospital, caring for newborn babies and their mothers. There she met Dr. Rene, and began to understand love. Her teen years were "lived" on the run, in grave danger. Life began again when the family was sponsored to come to the United States.

This touching story is all the more real for me because I was once friends with a young man named Chen Pret, an immigrant to the US, from the terror of Cambodia's take over. The honesty and openness of Khanteya's story makes it personable and at the same time all the more real. This part of the world's history is not something that everyone knows about, but should! Her inspirational tale of her success in America is a testament to perseverance and dedication. Khanteya is an admirable woman and her story is one you won't forget.” Writes Heather Froeschl about Julie and her book KHANTEYA: My courageous Quest for Love and Freedom.

Welcome my guest, Julie Thong, MBA, Author, Speaker and Cambodia Genocide Survivor. Julie Thong is a genocide survivor who fell prey to the Khmer Rouge in the 1975 takeover of Cambodia. Julie was left to die in a concentration camp dumping grounds because she was too ill to perform work like planting rice and digging water channels for the communists. Separated from her parents and left to die in the camp as a teenager, Julie tells how she slipped past armed guards in a daring escape and then set out to find her family. She dodged bullets and landmines as she and siblings set out flee the communist regime. In the end, she was able to reunite her family and brought them to America.

Her riveting tale of courage and survival show how an ordinary person can find the inner strength to meet any challenge. In Julie’s case, the obstacles she faced – war, slave labor, starvation – were life-threatening. Her inspiration talks show how we can apply the same strategies she used to save her life and can be used to live life more abundantly each day.

Julie is the author of two boos, KHANTEYA: My courageous Quest for Love and Freedom is her memoir and is about her quest for live and freedom and her second book, The Power of FEAR: Face Everything and Rejoice! This second book is a set of phenomenal strategies that enable people to overcome fear and with faith and have courage to take positive actions.

About Julie Thong:
A sought-after speaker, Julie Thong, has addressed hundreds of audiences on a variety of business and personal health and wellness topics, combining her expertise as a corporate project manager with her current network marketing business success and her own amazing story of courage. Her energetic, dramatic, and heart-felt presentations about breaking through any obstacle to achieve your dream will leave you inspired – and unstoppable!

Julie is the Founder of Amazing Mission International organization, www.amazingduty.org
and Buffalo Footprints TV 18. She is also a member of the Lomita/Torrance Airport Rotary Club, a Board Director for the Switzer Learning Center, and the Advisory Board Director of the 4 The World, www.4theworld.org.

For more information on Julie Thong visit www.JulieThong.com.

Julie Thong’s Mission:
Our Quest2Freedom mission is to help those who desire a better life. We promote FREEDOM from fear, health issues, living paycheck-to-paycheck, bondage, and being too busy and not having enough time to enjoy family and help others. We want people to create the lives they’ve always wanted.

If you would like to know more or help, here are some charities that are “friends of The Mona Miller Show” that that help these impoverished countries and situations:

How to make a difference: www.OffTheMatIntoTheWorld.com
Providing Clean Water In Sambura: www.TheSamburuProject.org
Proving Educational Tools to Over Come Adversity: Communication In Human Behavior -
http://www.communicationartscompany.com ... rofit.html (Mona’s own non-profit)

Why do we lose ourselves for sex?

Why does sex take us over?

How does inappropriate sexual experiences affect me as an adult?

What is sensuality? Hint… (see Senses)

Why does my partner not feel "into it" when I know he/she love me?

Why do people like to be spanked or slapped?

Why do we crave orgasms?

Is love important in sex?

Is compatibility important for sex?

When the brain hooks up with the genitals, without the heart, a person is likely to develop sex addiction, be prone to sexual abuse, and experience—at best—an adrenaline rush. This is a chemical experience, not a love experience. But just like any high, how do you feel afterwards? No heart, love, understanding, or intimacy, just a momentary high followed by emptiness and loneliness.

When the heart hooks up with the genitals, without the brain, a person may experience impotence and anxiety. Truth is not necessary here. You are prone to infections and sex addiction. Avoidance of sexuality or depression are choices for blocking. No brain, no truth, just fear with emotional and physical act-outs.

What is true sexual freedom?

What is sexuality?

What does "turned on" mean?

Does your beginning sexual experiences matter?

Do you know your sexual fears, hurts, angers, or shames? This is important because…

How do you feel about your body?

How do you feel about your partner’s body?

Why do relationships go platonic?

Want to get to the bottom of your feelings

What were you taught about sex?
Here’s a writing exercise to find out…

Dear Sex:
When I look at you I see… And feel… And I remember when…
I am angry with you (sex itself) because… And that makes me feel…
Sex, you ruined my life because…
I hate sex because…
I hate me and sex because…
I am scared of sex because…
I am afraid of me with sex because…
I feel bad about sex because…
Screw sex because…
I am guilty about sex because…
I am ashamed of sex because…
I am embarrassed by sex because
I am disappointed in sex because…
I feel sad about sex because…
I am hurt by sex because…
I feel sorry for myself with sex because…
I feel sorry for ___________________ with sex because…
I feel excited about sex because…
I love sex because…
I like sex because…
I’m happy about sex because…
This makes me feel…
I wish sex could be like…

Welcome kids and parents. We are dealing with Drugs/Alcohol/School & Parenting in 2008!

It’s a different ball game in 2008. We are in the outcome of the 1960’s Sex, Drugs and Rock ‘n Roll era.

We have numbed ourselves to the idea of teaching the concept of “no” and the danger of any drugs and alcohol. Marijuana is a drug; alcohol is a depressant that takes the oxygen out of your blood stream which affects your immune system.

Sex, too young, keeps true intimacy and love from growing and connecting to another, often resulting in sex addiction before the heart, body, mind and soul have truly developed and matured. Before you give yourself to another, shouldn't you at least, have a sense of self ….for yourself?

Our young children are saying “I just wanted to see,” “I was curious.” The concept of "Danger" is not being heard by our children. If parents are doing drugs and drinking too much alcohol themselves what message is that? We, as parents, need to behave in ways we want our kids to act like. The question is....Are we willing to deal with ourselves too? This type of lifestyle does not need to be an experience our kids have to go through.

It is said: There are 2 great businesses to go into…
1. Senior Living facilities because of the Baby Boomers
2. Drug Rehab's & Sober Living establishments.
Why? How is the drug and alcohol situation really going in our culture? And what affect does early sex experiences really create?
This way of life is now an expectation for our children.
If we are presently having or had early sex or promiscuous sex....or currently do or did drugs/alcohol.....
We may feel guilty or hypocritical for teaching "no" to our children. Stop here!
Guilt is not deep or spiritual, so use guilt as a "check in" to see how you feel and find truths. But do not use guilt, anger or fear as a decision maker.

School is no longer about education, its about keeping your kids safe. Schools have become every unsafe. Even young kids are selling prescription drugs for guess what? Food? Not usually. Try clothes, shoes or jewelry.

Pot is the drug that doesn't count as a drug says the world. (You've got to be kidding me)
And wine…isn't alcohol either, right? (This is common denial.)
Where are your inner truths? Without truth, how can you have clarity and take ownership for your life if you're denying, defensive or deflecting? Hello?…….Are we twisted enough yet?

This generation child has been exposed to so much with no self processing skill to truly understand anything they are watching, feeling and expressing. Children, as well as, adults are often very literal and living to "fit in" with the ““norm”” even if they or others they love get hurt. If you follow “the norm” ….isn't that a true loss of self? After all, wasn't it the ““norm”” to own black people once? OK........... keep following the crowd, I guess.
There have been documented TV shows that prove no matter how hard a parent teaches, "stay away from strangers," "just say no." 9 out of 10 times, kids will be manipulated and unfortunately, will go to the stranger and if a friend or popular person says: "try this".....they probably will.
Boys do not have impulse control until 21 and girls are more aggressive and willing to drop boundaries to prove they can please a boy sexually by age 13. It's like a game.

So what are we going to do about it? Can we teach truth above feelings and learn to practice this ourselves?

My son JJ, who will be coming on the show, seems to have plenty to say about this subject matter. He is 17 and has been struggling strongly with anger, hurt, sadness and depression by being sober and admitting to his peers he is not ready to have sex.

This is some of what he has to say: "I can't get close to people who do weed and drugs. People who drink and do drugs numb out their feelings. It's an escape for people who don't want to deal with their lives. Why can't kids or even adults watch others and just learn from what is obvious. I have lost many friends because they have decided to smoke weed with other kids, over being with me. It hurts when they choose weed or alcohol over a friend/me. It makes me angry and I don't want to get close to anyone my age. I can't date someone who smokes/drinks/or is using drugs. They're not balanced. They're unstable, out of control. They are either enraged or shut down completely. There is no trust. They can't listen or feel me. And yes, they can hurt people around them, which would be me."

A Post Script from Mom, Gina: Thank you Mona for inviting me to your show. It was an amazing experience. Hearing Ruby was healing for me. I was in way too many unsafe situations when I was her age, and her sharing brought light to that dark time in me. I honor and thank her for her courage and the gift of healing it brought to me.

I was also blown over by Nicolo and JJ, they were so real and so articulate! ALL 3 of them inspired me with their courage and sensitivity.

For them, I wanted to own and be clear that as a teenager and into my early twenties, along with being the control freak kid panicking about drug and alcohol use, I also had plenty of times where I chose to check out with alcohol and drugs. I hated being \"high\" and also couldn't handle the post high depression - worst despair I have ever felt.

It was a cycle of participating in the drinking/drugs, getting scared and depressed as a result, abstaining but remaining part of a drinking/drug behaving social circle which kept me in a state of anxiety, then I would cave to the peer pressure or the need for the break from the anxiety and participate. It took literally moving to a new city for me to break the cycle. I just wanted to be clear that I was in both parts of the cycle --all of it was hell.

Having many years of healing behind me, I still face the choice to have a glass of wine at the end of the day or to go into workaholic mode to avoid dealing with my thoughts and feelings. Processing my thoughts and feelings or doing yoga though, does more than take the edge off, it literally alters my whole being away from stress and anger to a deeply resourceful state of love and gratitude. Then from this state the world is easy and a pleasure to deal with, no matter what life brings my way.