Post = After
Traumatic = Trauma
Syndrome = Pattern

Do you know each of us has a bunch of PTSs! Our subconscious mind remembers all of our traumas. Any such “little” or “big” experience alters our self-development, and changes the behaviors or beliefs of who we are. Can you “see” how important it is to understand our past traumas?

It’s a myth that a trauma has to be horrible. Many traumas are violent; but some can be as “simple” as a parent being sick or depressed, or a “difficult” pregnancy, or a threat that was never carried out. All of these experiences can traumatize the mind’s belief system and create a survivor pattern.

Don’t minimize any such experience you’ve had. If you live with an upset and you minimize it, you will miss its significance and the opportunity to heal it. Pay attention to yourself! And watch your vocabulary. If you are using words such as those in the next chart, you are minimizing and blocking.


EMOTIONAL, MANIPULATIVE WORDS

Kind of ....... I’m kind of happy.
Sort of ........ I’m sort of good.
A little ......... I’m a little sad.
Maybe ......... Maybe I can go.
Perhaps ....... Perhaps tomorrow.
Probably ....... I probably did it.
At least ......... At least, I showed up.

Your intelligence can prevent understanding by awakening the judger inside you unless emotional processing is allowed.

The pain created after a trauma can have a domino effect, bringing all kinds of realities, one after another, to the surface. What is real and what is true?

Real is a belief based on how we think, feel, remember, and perceive things. True is what is.

Our thoughts, feelings, memories, and perceptions are very real to each of us …but they are not necessarily true.

My guest this week is my client, Dr. Lisa Douthit; Homeopath, Reiki Master, Bioenergetic Healer, mother, cancer & PTS survivor. These are her thoughts regarding this subject matter.

One of the reasons I chose to do bio-energetic healing (looking at the body through bio-chemistry as well as through the emotional and spiritual makeup of the person) is because I believe that once we have an illness, we need to first take care of it through a practical way such as homeopathy, Chinese herbs, etc. But in order to truly remedy the issue, we need to look at how it got there in the first place.

I start by opening the chakras with Reiki, to get the energy moving which gives me a clearer picture as to what plane the disease is on. For instance, strep throat can be from an emotional trauma that was not dealt with, or a spiritual issue where your spirit is trying to teach you to 'have a voice' in a situation. What this can also look like is someone with an unprocessed childhood trauma who can easily alter their biochemistry by creating blockages in there mind as well as their body, (creating illnesses like cancer or repressed memories or both). Trauma + no processing = PTS and can lead to cancer or any other disease. Picture a memory getting locked in the body and playing out on a physical level. I feel we need to look at the whole picture and deal with each aspect of their issue to allow them to heal themselves and grow. This information has become very personal to me.

1. What is the purpose of knowing the “Inner Child”?
All of us have within ourselves a little child. This child represents the essential part of us that existed before society began to socialize, define, and control us. Our inner child can be playful, funny, sad, wise, needy—just like our adult self can be. But the more we understand our inner child, the more we understand who we are, where we came from, and why we are truly here. The child part of us is the energy in all of us that is most capable of remembering why we are here in the first place. It is said, through the child you will know your purpose.

Your inner child experiences are crucial because they affect your thoughts, emotions and belief systems that are very real to your psyche and subconscious mind. If your inner child, for example, feels sad about something that your judger judges ridiculous, you may feel a deep, bizarre sadness that seems totally unrelated to life in present time. You may say, “I shouldn’t feel that way!” And you then condemn yourself for being so foolish. This can cause a shutdown. So now you are ignoring your feelings altogether. Did that make the feelings go away?

Soon your inner child shuts down, throws temper tantrums, gets high or drunk as a way to release the blocked feelings without understanding or owning them. We adults can be so childish, but do you know why? Being CHILDISH means I am stuck in an immature or young child’s thoughts, feelings, memories or judgments with no sense of personal responsibility or adult awareness. Being CHILDLIKE is different. It is being an aware adult, with childlike energy. If the inner child’s feelings are judged and not understood, the inner child and your adult self are stuck in your past feelings. Learn to see yourself in parts like The Inner Child called Little Sally/Johnny/insert your name, The Manipulator, The Liar/Denier, The Judger, The Deep One, The Sweet Light, The Aware Seer, Ostrich, etc. Feel free to name other parts of yourself on your own. Your inner child knows it has been ignored, but the adult doesn’t. The two have separated from each other. If the child is acting out, you will feel out of control; if the adult is acting out alone with no connection to the inner child’s feelings, memories or awareness, the judger and manipulator come up and judge the inner child’s feelings, memories and awareness, and you can feel depressed inside and indifferent or defensive on the outside.

2. Getting to Know Your Inner Child
Do you have a picture of you as a child? If you can, find one of yourself between the ages of two and four. Make copies and put them in your wallet, on your desk, and anywhere else you can. Little by little, your subconscious mind will start to remember things, just by looking at these pictures. Don’t worry if you can’t remember anything, yet. If you don’t have a picture, draw one of yourself—even a stick person representation is okay.

3. Want to know more?
See Chapter 5, page 99 in the Invisible Warfare book and page 180 in the Invisible Warfare Special Workbook Edition.

4. Something Special For Your Inner Child
I will end this intimate show with a song I wrote that is very special to me “Hold Your Child” – these are my thoughts for your inner child sung not just by me, but with a soulful friend Vann Johnson. This song is from my double CD “Something I’ve Gotta Trust”. You can hear Vann’s wonderful singing on NBC’s television show The Singing Bee Tuesday nights at 9:30 p.m. For more on Van Johnson visit www.vannjohnson.com.

NEXT WEEK’S TOPIC:
Here’s a sneak peek at next week’s topic - How does PTS (Post Traumatic Syndrome) effect the “Inner Child” and your present time life with my client, Dr. Lisa Douthit; Homeopath, Reiki Master, Bioenergetic Healer, mother, cancer & PTS survivor.

Tune in to the Mona Miller Show on September 9, 2007 to understand this question:

Why be Oprah, Mother Theresa, Owen Wilson, or a Tabloid writer with the way we “see”?

And then stay tuned on September 16, 2007 for the visit with actress, radio personality, and client Lisa Fuson – Live in studio with a follow-up show on fame, codependency and self- judgment.

I want to do a show on a subject matter that hits me deeply. The way we, as a whole, “see” ourselves and others. When I say “see,” I do not mean a literal or physical seeing, I mean a way we can “see” and understand at the same time. Do we see through our low or high ego or in a centered, spirited way?

Why would someone rather see a bad person than an open, deep person? Could it be that when we see someone we judge as "worse" then us (an image and judgmental word) we feel good about ourselves. We play the See Saw Game (see Chapter 2 of Invisible Warfare book and workbook). Does this game put us in high ego or spirit centeredness? Afterwards be prepared for the fall when someone you deem better than you steps forward, which causes you to put yourself in low ego, while you time travel to past childhood thoughts and feelings -- where tons of hurt may tumble forward and cause you to become reactive in your everyday life -- whether you realize this is happening or not.

I know we are in the "Awakening," so how we "see" ourselves and others as we voluntarily expose ourselves or just plain invade everyone's life matters.

On Sept 9, 2007 I am going to speak about fame, codependency and judgment regarding Oprah (birth name Orpah Winfrey), Mother Theresa, Owen Wilson and the Tabloids.

Do we feed truth, love, owning, vulnerability, sobriety, and evolution? We can’t if we continue the way we “see.” Tune in and change your perception for even a little miracle in your life.

Then on Sept. 16, 2007 please welcome my client, actress, and radio personality Lisa Fuson.

Here’s this communicative, talented, high-spirited, bright “light” with so much life and insight and with deep hurt, sadness and confusion as to why we have to “see” each other – why we have to judge, punish, attack and condemn.

To go from the “Awakening” to “Enlightenment” we need to “see” in the “the light”, which means... (Chapter 7, Enlightenment, page 394 in the Invisible Warfare book and Transformation’s Awakening to Enlightenment page 453 in the workbook. We can do these writings over and over again and go deeper and deeper.)

How do we hurt someone -- especially if they have no intention of hurting anyone else and who just wants to “see,” own and try to be just a little better? Why would someone who is open, vulnerable and honest in their heart, body, mind and soul ever want to come forward to be “seen” by anyone? The cold or disconnected people are the ones who can actually take it! So how do you want to “see”?

Lisa Fuson can be reached at vochick@hotmail.com or www.lisafuson.com

Don't forget to tune in the Mona Miller Show Sunday Mornings 9:30 a.m. PTS and 12:30 p.m. EST on CRN Digital Talk Radio, www.crni.net

Having understanding is what love “is”.

As we are living longer and further apart from each other, we need to find ways to support and understand our families, friends, and elders in general.

My guest this Sunday is Maggie Walters, author of “Finding the Bloom of the Cactus Generation”: Improving the Quality of Life for Seniors to help people with mentally and/or physically challenged elderly relatives and friends understand their situations and deal with them effectively.

Walters earned a B.A. degree in French literature from Goucher College in Baltimore, added an undergraduate degree in graphic design from London College of Printing and earned an M.A. in education form the University of London, in England.

The more we understand how to age, the more peace we will find in loving our seniors and ourselves. Understanding all aspects of our different stages in life takes away anger, fear, guilt and shame.

Information on Maggie Walters and her book can be found on her website www.cactusgeneration.com. The book is also in bookstores and can be ordered at Amazon.com

This Sunday, August 19th, I am welcoming my friend, client, and colleague, Dr. Seth Kadish. Dr. Seth and I met (blubble, blubble) years ago in a comedy improvisational group in NYC. I am not that old.

We have been identified as characters and how interesting that two rather odd characters would come together and reunite in such a way as to embark on a road of understanding and with such love for the odd or misunderstood people of our planet. We so want to touch and be a part of what is brilliant, sensitive and hurt. Why? Ohhhhhhhhh no, that wouldn’t be our inner selves, right? It takes one to know one huh?

If you want to do some work on what we are about to talk about try chapter 1 and then jump to page 139 of Invisible Warfare and page 223 of the work book, Suppressed Fears Create Addictions. What makes the mind tilt and go to addictions, insanity or criminology? Could there be a type of formula?

I know suppressed fears and hurts can create these mind sets. These mind sets are a part of all of us in different degrees. But by no means is that who we are. We pull up these parts as protection of our vulnerabilities to either block, survive or plainly, just feel better in a moment. It is all about the conscious mind and subconscious mind separating because we have no processing skill to break it down and understand and handle ourselves.

Why is the processing of anger, fear, guilt and shame with the use of appropriate humor so important in processing our minds, hearts, bodies and souls?

Come and join our Think Tank this Sunday with Seth and me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

About this weeks guest: Dr. Seth C. Kadish

Dr. Seth C. Kadish is Clinical Director of Milestones Ranch Malibu (www.milestonesranch.com), one of the nation’s premier dual diagnosis treatment centers, located in the Santa Monica Mountains of southern California.

In addition to his work with chemically dependent clients, Dr. Kadish is a Staff Psychologist at California State Prison-Los Angeles County (www.cdcr.ca.gov/Visitors/fac_prison_LAC.html), treating maximum security offenders. As Adjunct Professor at California Graduate Institute in Westwood, California (www.cgi.edu), Dr. Kadish teaches courses on working with difficult clients, prison psychology, and the criminal mind.

Have a questions for Dr. Kadish? He can be contacted @ Drsethck@aol.com