Here's an exercise to help identify patterns you repeat:

BONDING PATTERNS BECOME BONDAGE.

Here’s My Pattern! Think of a pattern you repeat, over and over again Write it down! How is it based on a thought? A feeling? A visual? A behavior? A habit?
1.One pattern I repeat is…
2.The thought I have that repeats is…
3.The feeling I have that repeats is…
4.My visual is…
5.The behavior is…
6.The habit is…
7.This pattern makes me feel I’m in bondage, because…
8.I would like to break this pattern, because…

Here’s How My Pattern Developed
In my past I…
1.Had a Thought
2.Then a Feeling
3.That became a Visual
4.Which developed a Behavior
5.The Behavior repeated
6.And became a Habit


To Break a Pattern
In present time…
1.Find the Habit
2.Identify the Behavior
3.See the Picture or Visual
4.Understand the Feelings
5.Go to the past to find the Thought

Then…
1.Change the Thought
2.Celebrate and understand the Feelings
3.Create a new Thought from a “wish” of what could happen
4.Make a new Picture or Visual
5.Decide on a new Behavior/break the Pattern
6.Repeat the new Behavior until it becomes subconscious
7.Now you have a new “Habit”